Dating for Couples with Kids

Investigating the Background during Dating: A Good Idea?

Dating can be a complicated process. It becomes even more complicated when you are a single parent with kids who is trying to look for love. The prospective partner must not only win your heart and treat you well, but they should be equally kind, respectful and warm towards your children.

Having worked with single parent support groups for a good 18 years, I can safely vouch for the fact that it is highly important for you to really know who you are dating before you introduce them to your family. I have lost count of the number of stories narrated to me that involve children who were victimized by their parent’s partner, while they were only dating.

And each story is more heartbreaking than the last one.

Being a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. You have to do the job of two people making sure that you set a great example for your kids to follow, as many times as you possibly can. Even in love and relationships. Suppose you have met somebody and you have nothing but good things to say about them. They are smart, intelligent and have a great sense of humor -- you are sure your kids will love them too.

But is the person you are dating, somebody that can be trusted with your children?

Our children are nothing less of a gift straight from God. It only makes sense to treat them that way too. You need to find out if your partner would be good to your kids as good as they are to you.

Even if you have been dating somebody for over 4 months, there is no guarantee that that person is not hiding anything from you. What if they are? You deserve to know. Getting someone’s background investigated can unearth several things that can help you predict what they would be like in the future.

Maybe the person you are dating was unable to keep their last job because of their uncontrollable temper? Maybe they were charged with a sexual harassment case? How many people do you know who would confess such things to your face?

Most importantly, how are those people in question going to be any different towards you and/or your kids?

Harris County offers incredible background investigation services which you should definitely avail. Have your partner’s background investigated by them before introducing them to your family.

If there is something you should know about them, you will know. If there is nothing suspicious that shows up, your heart will rest easy knowing that they are safe to be around with, for you and your kids both.

It’s a win-win situation.