Investigating the
Background during Dating: A Good Idea?
Dating can be a complicated process. It becomes even more
complicated when you are a single parent with kids who is trying to look for
love. The prospective partner must not only win your heart and treat you well,
but they should be equally kind, respectful and warm towards your children.
Having worked with single parent support groups for a good
18 years, I can safely vouch for the fact that it is highly important for you
to really know who you are dating
before you introduce them to your family. I have lost count of the number of
stories narrated to me that involve children who were victimized by their
parent’s partner, while they were only dating.
And each story is more heartbreaking than the last one.
Being a single parent comes with its own set of challenges.
You have to do the job of two people making sure that you set a great example
for your kids to follow, as many times as you possibly can. Even in love and
relationships. Suppose you have met somebody and you have nothing but good
things to say about them. They are smart, intelligent and have a great sense of
humor -- you are sure your kids will love them too.
But is the person you are dating, somebody that can be trusted
with your children?
Our children are nothing less of a gift straight from God. It
only makes sense to treat them that way too. You need to find out if your
partner would be good to your kids as good as they are to you.
Even if you have been dating somebody for over 4 months,
there is no guarantee that that person is not hiding anything from you. What if
they are? You deserve to know. Getting someone’s background investigated can
unearth several things that can help you predict what they would be like in the
future.
Maybe the person you are dating was unable to keep their
last job because of their uncontrollable temper? Maybe they were charged with a
sexual harassment case? How many people do you know who would confess such
things to your face?
Most importantly, how are those people in question going to
be any different towards you and/or your kids?
Harris County offers incredible background investigation
services which you should definitely avail. Have your partner’s background
investigated by them before introducing them to your family.
If there is something you should know about them, you will
know. If there is nothing suspicious that shows up, your heart will rest easy
knowing that they are safe to be around with, for you and your kids both.
It’s a win-win situation.
